talking myself out of a job

Today I had 2 clients and both were married and struggling with guilt. The first he told me last time about his predicament with little awareness and a bunch of platitudes he used to shame himself into feeling bad for needing to express a part of his sexuality that was not acceptable at home. The part of him that likes to be dominated, to be forced to lick my asshole and take a dildo up his butt. He arrives wearing a condom to protect himself and his wife from my arsenal of diseases. He requests a dom type clothing ensemble of stockings, spike heels and my newest addition to my extensive wardrobe: my PVC dress. He labels his desires "goofy" after he has come and can look at them with a more discerning eye. I have seen him like 5 times and I like him. I can't talk him out of his guilt, nor his compulsion to fulfill the part of him that needs a certain erotic interaction to sustain him at his high pressure/ stress job and family life. The next client I have known for years, but I see him only twice a year. I like him too. He seeks solutions through mindfulness and other evolved approaches in his career and personal life. He asked me. "what's new?" and somehow our discussion veered into his guilt. His paradox of loving his wife and wanting to be the man she thinks he is; monogamous, integrity, truthful and yet he cannot stop himself from setting up trysts with providers only when she is out of town or he is on business and then finds a way to justify his participation by saying, "but I didn't fuck them, I only got a massage that included my cock." I asked him questions about his justifications and about his beating up of himself after doing. Basically to illuminate more about his process of decision making and follow through. He appreciated my questions. He usually has one orgasm on arrival and a second one after a massage. I told him we would have to change the subject or he wouldn't get aroused for a second orgasm. He said that was ok and I saw he felt good about refusing what he would usually justify himself availing himself of. His first orgasm was in my professional opinion, very easy. All I did was undress him and sensually move my body next to his in different variations but what he received was initiation and interest and desire; what he doesn't get from his long term relationship. Why doesn't she do what I do? does she believe she is sexy enough to arouse him. I do. Does she think she becomes a slut for acting in certain ways? label me slut- I am not perturbed. He wouldn't let me suck his cock because in case I had an communicable diseases ( that is responsible of him) and so his orgasm was quick with few strokes and little effort. We agreed that the next time he called or emailed me, I would ignore him and if he asked me for a reference to another provider, I would not give one. He said he appreciated this support. I felt sad that I would never see him again, glad that he would make a change that felt more authentic to his values and grateful that he shared so honestly with me.